When high school students begin the process of applying to colleges and universities, they face simultaneously one of the most stressful and exciting times of their lives to date. After the years of middle school, where they often dread their futures and where a life away from home seems too far off to imagine, high school is where many students begin to get excited about where that life will lead. Even those who may not want to take a traditional post-high school path begin to think about how different things will be in just a few years.
I’ve found in my work with students they need as much latitude as possible. It’s important to let them know this is their life and they should own the process.
- Parents should try as much as they can to let their students express where their interests lie and what they’re looking forward to studying.
- Addressing questions and fears they may have is helpful. As parents, you are a part of this journey, but ultimately it’s their path they are navigating.
- Whether the student works with an admissions counselor inside or outside of their school, encourage them to talk with others who are familiar with the college experience. Seeking out different perspectives helps shape their perspective.
- One of my favorite parts of working with this age group is the fact that they are on the edge of that cliff. They are looking forward to the next few years might be. It’s important to dampen their spirit.
The process of applying to college is anything but static. Many schools are choosing to forego standardized testing. Some students are considering technical schools rather than a more academic path.
There are many ways parents can help students through this stressful and exciting time. A supportive attitude is always beneficial, but especially if it is combined with a firm but gentle push so that kids can start to take ownership of the process. Encourage them to actively consider and verbalize what makes them excited about the next phase and how it fits into what they see as their desired future. Parents can continue to play an important role, but ultimately students need to navigate their own path.